A weekly space to connect, recharge, grow & feel alive. Feb–Apr 2026, Berlin. Donation based. Join 1–8 evenings.
A weekly space to Connect, recharge, grow & feel alive
This weekly, donation-based gathering is a community space to drop in, belong, nourish each other, and authentically connect over a different theme each week.
You’re welcome to join us for 1–9 evenings at Wamos — a cozy workshop space full of pillows and mattresses. Each evening follows a similar structure:
- A practice to arrive in your body and the group
- A talk by Mette on the weekly theme
- A (potentially deep) practice in the full group or smaller groups
- An authentic hangout: a free-flow space to connect and follow your impulses or simply relax
No two evenings will be the same — how it unfolds depends on the group size and that week’s theme. Ultimately, the intention is to meet in community with vulnerability and openness, to get nourished, grow in unexpected ways, be around friends, make new ones, and make the most of these colder months together.
The evenings are free, with an option to donate. For guaranteed access, reserve a spot for the dates you want to join. Alternatively, you can simply show up and see if there’s still space.
Or scroll down for the dates and times, the weekly themes, all practical details, and the idea behind making these gatherings donation-based.
When & where? The practicals
Here’s all you need to know to join:
Times
- Arrive between 18:00 – 18:40. Settle in, chill, eat your dinner.
- Doors close around 18:45. If you’ve been to my spaces before, you can request to arrive later by texting me (well in advance) on Telegram.
- We finish at 22:30 — and tidy up with those who have 5–10 minutes to help. The program also allows for leaving early, since the last hour is an informal hangout.
(The full timetable shows what we’ll do exactly)
Dates
- Week 1: Wed 4 Feb 2026
- Week 2: Thu (!) 12 Feb 2026
- (One week without a session)
- Week 3: Wed 25 Feb 2026
- Week 4: Wed 4 Mar 2026
- Week 5: Wed 11 Mar 2026
- Week 6: Wed 18 Mar 2026
- Week 7: Wed 25 Mar 2026
- Week 8: Wed 1 Apr 2026
- Week 9: Wed 8 Apr 2026
Add all dates to your calendar (downloads a .ics file)
Practical
- Group size: 5–60 lovely humans each week.
- Language: English (with plenty of changes to speak German too)
- Availability: Can be seen in the reservation form. Ideally, reserve a spot for the evenings you want to join (and cancel if you can’t make it). Or just show up and see if there’s still space.
- Donation: The evenings are free, with an option to donate. Read more about that here.
Venue, what to bring, and accessibility
- Venue: Wamos. Hasenheide 9, 10965, Berlin. See Google Maps and photos of Wamos.
- Accessibility: The venue has an elevator, but there are a few steps to reach it. Toilets are standard (not fully accessible). We’re happy to help where possible — feel free to reach out if you need anything.
Food and packing list
- Nice to bring: Comfortable, layered clothing, pen&paper, a water bottle, a meditation pillow (if you like), and whatever brings you comfort or joy.
- Snacks and dinner: Ideally bring some snacks to share, so we can create a buffet. You can also bring your own dinner and eat before we start or during the authentic hangout at the end of the evening.
- Pets: You can’t bring your super cute doggie. I’m sorry.
(scroll down for the timetable)
Themes
Each week’s theme which be announced on Telegram and Instagram the week before the event.
Possible themes include:
- Honesty — from opinion to experiential truth
- Authentic physical connection — the beauty of presence
- Dealing with the news — staying regulated in an unsafe world
- Gentle emotional release — get unstuck from your stories
- Inner safety — understanding the nervous system
- Inner freedom — welcoming all parts of yourself
- Losing our parents — meeting this reality
- Sexuality and shame — shedding light on the dark
- Body liberation — expanding your range of physical expression
- Beyond polarization — being open to other perspectives
- Rage and grief — finding the pleasure underneath
When you reserve your spot, you can indicate which themes appeal to you. I might also send a weekly poll to those who pre-registered, so we can choose together when we explore which theme.
Timetable
While the actual timings may differ each week, here's the general idea:
- 18:00 – 18:40: Arrive, settle in, eat your dinner
- 18:45 ~ 18:50: Doors close*.
- 19:00 – 19:30: A practice to arrive in your body
- 19:30 – 20:00: Discourse (snuggle up while I share some words about this week’s theme)
- 20:00 – 21:30: A group practice, forum, circle work, or exploration in smaller groups — in relation to the theme. (Or just witness or do your own thing)
- 21:30 – 22:25:** Authentic hangout (explained below)
- 22:25 – 22:30: Closing
- 22:30: Tidying up the space with those who have 5–10 minutes to help.
* If you’ve been to my spaces before, you can request to arrive later by texting me (well in advance) on Telegram.
** The hangout may start earlier or later depending on how the group practice unfolds. You’re welcome to leave early.
Authentic Hangout
Play a game, propose a six-hand massage, meditate, dance, craft, cuddle, play fight, recite poetry, or simply relax in a cozy corner with a book. As long as you stay mindful of how your actions affect the overall safety and vibe (and keep things non-sexual) you’re warmly invited to follow your flow and do what feels right at any moment.
Mette Koppelaar (1984, they/them)
I see authentic self-expression as a way to welcome more of myself, build deeper connection, and contribute to a more loving world.
As a facilitator, I create spaces where people from diverse identities can be true to themselves, build trust, and contribute to a culture of freedom and care. I use frameworks like:
- The Pyramid of Permission (developed by me)
- Polyvagal Theory
- Internal Family Systems
- Wheel of Consent
- Nonviolent Communication
- Diamond Approach
- Buddhism
My approach is simple: when there’s enough outer safety and permission to express yourself, you’ll meet the edges of your inner safety and permission. Having positive experiences at your edges, you can slowly become more comfortable with a wider range of expression. Over time, this allows you to reveal more of yourself in more areas of life.
My lens and ambition
I was born in Amsterdam in 1984. I’m white, able-bodied, middle-class, and gender nonconforming, using they/them or he/him pronouns. I grew up with safety and stability, with parents who spent years in group therapy before I was born. I haven’t faced war or poverty, and my passport allows me to travel freely—privileges I’m increasingly aware of.
At the same time, dressing outside gender norms has shown me what it’s like to not always feel safe on the street. Research, book interviews, and many personal conversations have deepened my understanding of societal oppression—especially for those whose identities are most targeted.
What began as a search for personal freedom has turned into a deep longing for a free, just, and equal world. It’s what I strive to contribute to in my work and daily life—one real moment at a time.
Connect with me
Join my mailing list, Telegram channel, or Instagram — or watch some of the videos below this photo:
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How dressing outside the norm led me to do this work:
Which evenings... Are you joining?
Ideally, reserve your spot below. Or drop in spontaneously and see if there’s still space.
How it works
- The evenings are free, with an option to donate.
- The reservation form reflects which dates are still available.
- For guaranteed access, reserve a spot for the dates you want to join.
- You can also show up and see if there’s still space, but it may be full.
- If you can’t make it and don’t cancel your spot, you may lose your reservations for other dates.
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Yes, we take this seriously: Values & accountability
How we take responsibility for the space:
The following values are the foundation for all my work. If these don't resonate with you, then we may not be a match. Of course, these values are always a work in progress. If something about them doesn’t feel right, or if you have ideas for improvement, I would love to hear from you. Message me on Telegram or through the contact form.
If it ever feels like I or any of the team members don't live up to these values, I would love for you to tell me.
- Authenticity: Everyone's invited to verbally, physically, and emotionally express themselves. We can play with our expression without justifying ourselves, yet we strive to do so in a way that’s considerate of other people.
- Inclusivity: We welcome all identities and personal backgrounds. We try to notice the judgments and assumptions we make about others, and question racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, or other discriminatory beliefs or behavior.
- Consent: We respect each other's space, stuff, boundaries and privacy. We share a responsibility to create a safe environment for ourselves as well as for others.
- Confidentiality: We don’t share about other people’s experiences. We don’t comment on other people’s experiences without their consent.
- Self and group responsibility: We’re try to look after our own well-being and ask for help when we need it—even when we don't know what we need. We try to be aware how we take up space, and strive to contribute to the safety of the group.
- No sex or romance with team members: Team members don't share arousal, sexual energy, or romance with participants. (We might like to share hugs or other forms of touch though!)
- No intoxication: We don't consume drugs and alcohol during or before the event, and limit the use of phones/devices in public spaces.
Lots of beautiful things can happen in spaces like these. You may also encounter interactions that don’t work for you—even when everyone has the best intentions. This can often be repaired when everyone involved is willing to have a vulnerable conversation about what happened.
If you have an unpleasant experience with a team member or fellow participant, I encourage you to reach out to them directly. If that doesn’t work or feels like too much, you’re very welcome to contact me (Mette) via Telegram or the contact form, or to contact any other team member. I/we may be able to support you and won’t take any action without your consent.
If you have an unpleasant experience with me (Mette), you're invited to reach out to me directly, contact another team member, or approach my accountability partner Anouk Bongers. She won't communicate with me unless you consent to it. You can find her contact details here.
If you’re still carying something that happened a long time ago, I want to acknowledge that it can take time to process certain experiences. Sometimes months or years. The offer above remains valid. There’s no such thing as reaching out too late.
My work is grounded in four observations about the human condition:
- Most people long to live a fulfilling life.
- When people do experience fulfillment, it often also comes at a cost — to themselves, others, or the planet
- Fulfillment can happen without causing such harm — and a direct way to experience that is through the Real Moments method.
- This can be learned through the Pyramid of Permission.
Over the past years, I’ve shared the Pyramid and Real Moments method in lots of different groups, which changed many people’s lives. I’ve looked for ways to make my spaces accessible while also making enough money with my work. So far, this has been a difficult journey.
I’ve found that earning a proper income with this kind of work requires things like:
- Looking for participants with more money (which often means: more privilege) rather than those who need it most
- Locking my best ideas behind paywalls
- Using social media to convince people of a problem and selling the fix
- Competing with others who also try to make the world a better place
- Focusing on corporate clients instead of individuals
- Combining this work with an additional job and working 60–80 hours per week
I don’t want to do these things. But I do want an income, savings, insurance, and a sense of security.
My latest plan is to start a non-profit organization with the aim of spreading the Pyramid of Permission as widely as possible, and live partially off monthly/yearly donations from those who want to support this mission. In the spirit of this idea, I’m offering these Community Gatherings on a donation basis, to see if:
- I’ll receive enough donations to cover my costs (around €2000 for all sessions)
- People will set up monthly donations to support my mission
It might work or not — but I want to try.
There’s no donation system set up yet, so if you’d like to support my mission, please drop me a quick message me on Telegram or via the contact form — or talk to me during a session.
Any amount is welcome. A substantial amount will help to financially support me. A smaller, symbolic amount will help me feel that you care and want me to keep doing this work, and will provide proof that this work matters to those who consider to donate more.
Most of the workshop photos were taken by Mio Schweiger. The portraits, group photos, and space photos were taken by others.
The end ...or the beginning?
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