A book about creating real moments and what it means to feel alive.
We create real moments when our outer expression is aligned with our inner truth. But how do we do this? Why is it so hard? And what is our inner truth anyway?
Real Moments, a book by Mette Koppelaar
Lively. Beautiful. Made me deeply reflect on my life.
Roeli, early reader
I feel inspired and more hopeful for my future.
Francesca, early reader
You've hooked me.
Charlie, early reader
It takes a village to write a book
My journey of dressing outside the gender norms turned into a multi-year research project. I'm collecting hundreds of stories and I'm reading thousands of pages. Sometimes, this is deeply satisfying. Sometimes, it is lonely. But: you can support me.
Want to put a smile on my face?
I’m not wearing the clothes I want to wear.
It was a simple, fleeting thought—so subtle that I could easily have missed it. But for some reason, I caught it and chose to pay attention—and I’m glad I did. That single moment sparked a profound personal journey. Not only did it lay the foundation for this book—it transformed my life forever.
It happened on a Saturday night. My partner and I were at Wasteland—a massive techno party where thousands of people dress up in leather, latex, lingerie, or simply nothing at all, and everybody dances like there’s no tomorrow. The first time a friend invited me to this party, I immediately declined—I couldn’t picture myself in a place like that. But over the days that followed, my curiosity beat my judgment and I decided to join her after all.
As I wandered through the crowded dance floors, my preconceived notions evaporated quickly. I saw things I never imagined seeing in real life, but none of it seemed a big deal. Continue reading...