Official website of Mette Koppelaar: workshops, courses, retreats, personal sessions & book

Hi, I’m Mette

I love helping people explore identity, normalize emotions, expand self-expression, and foster meaningful connection. I use playfulness and deep self-inquiry to uncover both our uniqueness and our shared humanity.

I write a book, organize workshops, courses, and retreats, and offer personal sessions for individuals, couples, and various constellations of people.

Workshops, courses & retreats

To explore yourself in connection with others, you can join one of my events.

Personal sessions

I love creating a supportive environment for embracing and expressing your inner truth. It may be light, scary, or messy; ecstatic or challenging; early in your process or way overdue. Regardless, putting the truth on the table is a courageous, liberating act that can awake a deep sense of aliveness and connection.

You can work with me alone, in a couple, or in constellations like flatmates, colleagues, friends, or polycules.

Real Moments, by Mette Koppelaar

Real Moments—the book

My journey of dressing outside the gender norms turned into a multi-year research project about authentic self-expression. I read thousands of pages and collected hundreds of stories to get to the core of how we can use real moments to feel increasingly alive.

Curious what I found out?