Foundations to Facilitate your Life: an Authentic Relating weekend in 2025 in Berlin

I’ve kept the costs lower than normal, since this weekend is intended to help you decide whether the Ambassadors For Humanity program is for you. (Also feel free to join as a standalone experience.)

• €0 — if you joined Ambassadors For Humanity 2025/26
  Full program participants can join all pre-events for free.
• €50 — when you join for one day
  Come for Saturday or Sunday from 10:30–18:00.
  (incl. 19% VAT)
• €75 — when you join for both days
  I recommend joining the full weekend if possible.
• Get your fee back
  If you join Ambassadors For Humanity within a week after this weekend, the weekend fee is fully deducted from the program fee.

The weekend is limited to 15 people, so sign up early:

Group photo of a previous event.

Dates: 20–21 Sep 2025. Join Sat, Sun, or both

Times: 10:30–18:00. Arrive between 10:00–10:15.

Can't make it? There are four (free) online co-creation calls on 9 Jul, 26 Aug, 30 Sep, and 14 Oct.

Venue: Holographic Healing Nest, in Berlin Neukölln (google maps, photos below).

Accommodation: Arrange your own. We can ask within the group.

Lunch: Bring your own or join us to Markthalle 9 or a restaurant.

Group size: up to 15 lovely humans

Language: English

Bring: comfortable, layered clothing, pen&paper, a water bottle, snacks to share—and whatever brings you comfort or joy.

Preparation: You'll receive a free copy of part 1 of my book, which you're invited to read. (Completely optional.)

Pets: You can't bring your super cute doggie. I'm sorry.

Accessibility: The venue has a set of stairs and no barrier-free toilet, yet we’re happy to help out. Please reach out if you have specific needs.

Mental health: If you’re unsure if you can hold yourself during this workshop, for example due to trauma or mental health challenges, please fill this out in the form. I'll reach out, so we can decide whether this is the right time to join.

Price: See the 'Costs per day or weekend' box above

Availability: There are a few spots left.

Hi, I'm Mette! (he/they)

As a writer, facilitator, and overall curious human, I look for authentic expression in playful and meaningful ways. I love to play with identity, normalize emotions, expand self-expression, and build connection by exploring our uniqueness as well as our shared humanity. In my spaces, I cultivate a deep sense of permission for you to fully follow your yeses and your no’s—enabling you to create imprints that support that same permission in other areas of your life.

I'm deeply invested in facilitating groups responsibly. Years ago, I started by participating and assisting some pretty brilliant facilitators like Chris van der Weijde & Rachel Rickards. I attended professional courses such as Internal Family Systems for therapists, the Wheel of Consent Like-a-Pro, the Field Facilitator Training, and multiple courses about the nervous system. I co-facilitated with some wonderful facilitators and held many of my own containers.

Creation has always been my main way of learning. I've learned both from my mistakes and from successful projects like when I created the (currently inactive) Nibana Festival from scratch, dedicating years to writing and researching my book about authentic living, and spending the past few years offering courses and retreats about authenticity, vulnerability, sexuality, freedom, and co-creating a better world.

My social location & lens
I was born in Amsterdam in 1984. I'm racialized as white, able-bodied, and come from a middle-class background. I'm gender nonconforming and use he or they pronouns. I studied AI before it was cool (and obtained my BSc) and have been self-employed since 2007, mainly running small startups and co-working spaces until I turned my life around in 2018. Although I didn’t turn out to be a typical straight cis-male, I did grow up as one. I’ve never had to worry about hunger, housing, or safety, and I’ve never directly experienced war or poverty. My passport allows me to travel wherever I want. I’ve faced financial stress, but only because I chose the uncertainty of self-employment. Mild bullying was part of my early teenage years, but overall, I felt supported. The experiences I consider traumatic pale in comparison to what many others have faced. I haven’t experienced severe intergenerational trauma, and my parents spent years in group therapy before I was born, which greatly contributed to the safety and stability of my family home. While my dressing journey deeply challenged me on a personal level, it fades in comparison to the levels of oppression that exist for the majority of people on this planet.

Hear my personal story

In this 2.5 minute video, I tell you how my desire to dress outside the gender norms eventually led me to do this work:

Here, I explain why I created Ambassadors For Humanity:

Photos: [1] Bartjan de Bruijn. [2&3] Ilse Wolf.

This weekend is held at Holographic Healing Nest, in Berlin Neukölln (google maps). The full Ambassadors For Humanity program is held at a bigger venue.

The overal intention is to create a space we increasingly shape together—not by following a fixed plan, but by exploring what it means to meet our desires in real time. A space where you can gradually step into self-leadership but also embrace your interdependence. Which is something you'll slowly grow into

You absolutely don't have to be a highly skilled, hyper-independent, emotionally self-sufficient group facilitator. Rather, you'll have embodied experiences around support and co-creation: supporting your own nervous system, supporting others, and co-creating an environment where each of us can thrive. From that place, you can develop certain qualities within yourself, such as:

• Confidence: courage, trust, inner safety, and nervous system capacity.
• Skill: practical ways of showing up in the world. Including ways to take initiatives in your life, ways to frame conversations, and embodied ways of relating. But also cultivating permission to rest, take breaks, ask for support, navigate difficult emotions like feeling stuck, ashamed, or lonely—and welcome senssations like joy, gratitude, playfulness, pride, and love.
• Sensitivity: presence, capacity to feel, attunement to self&other, awareness/curiosity toward the realities of others.

This weekend is for you if

• You want to step into more responsibility for shaping your life & relationships.
• You're interested in co-creating a platform—or nest—from which all of us can grow in our own ways.
• You're interested in shifting between roles: sometimes receiving, sometimes co-creating, sometimes leading.
• You might be scared about some of these things, but willing to lean into the vulnerability.
• You understand that you don't have to be able to do these things yet—and that co-regulation, receiving support, and collaboration are part of taking responsibility.
• You're interested in understanding how others experience the world, and are open to cultivating your genuine curiosity.

This weekend is not for you if

• You desire to lean back and only 'undergo' a school-style learning experience.
• You expect to be handed an arbitrary set of tools and blindly copy them.
• You believe there's one right way of doing things or a culture that's superior to others.
• You're not willing to be mirrored and receive consentual feedback.

In short

You don't have to be skilled to join this. You mainly have to be curious and willing to grow.

The nourishment of this program can play out wherever you place your focus. For example:

• Your relationship to yourself
• One-on-one friendships
• Friend groups
• Interest-based social groups (sports, dancing, etc)
• Colleagues and work relationships
• Parents, siblings, and/or extended family
• Current romantic partnership(s)
• Relationship with your children
• Relationships, friendships, partnerships you would like to have—but don't yet have
• Your relationship to society and its challenges (systemic oppression, climate change, keeping up with change, etc)
• Your relationship to nature, the universe, or whatever bigger thing you relate to

The bottom line is that you'll start looking at these contexts and systems more consciouly—and make more embodied, informed choices about how you want to engage with them.

What we’ll do in each weekend will be largely influenced by who are the ones joining. So while on some level the weekends are ‘the same’, I imagine they will end up looking differently in various ways. So I’d say they definitely have an overlap, but also variety. And I’d also say that repeating things is generally a helpful thing, especially when wantting to bring certain things into your life outside the container. So I’d say it’s valuable to join 2 weekends and also valuable to join just 1.

The following values are the foundation for all my work. If these don't resonate with you, then we may not be a match. Of course, these values are always a work in progress. If something about them doesn’t feel right, or if you have ideas for improvement, I would love to hear from you. Message me on Telegram or through the contact form.

If it ever feels like I or any of the team members don't live up to these values, I would love for you to tell me.

1. Authenticity: Everyone's invited to verbally, physically, and emotionally express themselves. We can play with our expression without justifying ourselves, yet we strive to do so in a way that’s considerate of other people.

2. Inclusivity: We welcome all identities and personal backgrounds. We try to notice the judgments and assumptions we make about others, and question racism, sexism, ageism, ableism, homophobia, transphobia, or other discriminatory beliefs or behavior.

3. Consent: We respect each other's space, stuff, boundaries and privacy. We share a responsibility to create a safe environment for ourselves as well as for others.

4. Confidentiality: We don’t share about other people’s experiences. We don’t comment on other people’s experiences without their consent.

5. Self and group responsibility: We try to be aware of the ways in which we take up space and strive to contribute to the safety of the group. We’re all responsible for our own physical and emotional needs.

6. No sex or romance with team members: Team members don't share arousal, sexual energy, or romance with participants. (We might like to share hugs or other forms of touch though!)

Not all experiences in these kinds of spaces are pleasant—even when everyone tries to do things right.

If you have an unpleasant experience with a team member or fellow participant, I encourage you to reach out to them directly. Alternatively, you're very welcome to contact me (Mette) via Telegram or the contact form, or to contact any other team member. We may be able to support you. We won’t take any action without your consent.

If you have an unpleasant experience with me (Mette), you're invited to reach out to me directly, contact another team member, or approach my accountability partner Anouk Bongers. She won't communicate with me unless you consent to it. You can find her contact details here.

It may take time to process certain experiences. Sometimes months or years. The offer above remains valid. There’s no such thing as reaching out too late.